Sounds racist, but it’s a true story. After a day of reaching out to my relatives on GEDMATCH, I came to find several relatives that were related to my unknown Grandfather and not my Grandmother, Carrie Walker. I never thought to look for him, or his relatives.
What to do now?
SEPARATED BY ADOPTION WEB SERIES – MY SEARCH FOR MY MATERNAL GRANDMOTHER
OTHER VIDEOS IN THE SERIES
Why I ordered an Ancestry.com DNA Kit (Part 1)
http://bit.ly/CJOrdersaDNAKit
Ancestry.com DNA Kit Instructions – (Part 2)
http://bit.ly/AncestryKitInstructions
My Ancestry.com DNA Kit Results Are In!!! (Part 3)
http://bit.ly/CJAncestryDNA
Can’t Find My Mom on Ancestry.com
http://bit.ly/AncestryvsGedmatch
My Ancestry DNA Results vs. Gedmatch
http://bit.ly/AncestryvsGedmatch
Accidentally Found My White Grandpa’s Relatives on GEDMATCH (Part 2)
http://bit.ly/CJRelatives
Lies Exposed! Mom’s Ancestry DNA Test Results
https://www.youtube.com/cSfxEInLvp4
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This is unfortunately common that Whites will not acknowledge Black family members whom they match with. I had one completely deny that we were related. We matched on two sites. SHE was the one with African ancestry and denied it although it clearly showed up on her results.
Hey my maiden name is walker. From what I was told my father was mixed. Where are your folks from?
Do you have a problem with having white relatives? Not seeing your point.
Awe, you’re a lovely lady. Take it one step at a time. Wishing you all the best.
I found the man who raped my great grandmother on Ancestry in Louisiana.
Why be angry at what you can't control…No one knows what are relatives were doing or thinking…It could be that two people loved each other then had a child….Mixed is so stupid to say….Human beings are without race…Race is made up…So is color…If they are your family…embrace them and get to know them…They had no role to play in what their ancestors did.
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Perhaps she was Creole there for she was a Quadroon or Octoroon, which would indicate she was a free person of color…… maybe she had an arrangement with the European man, I believe it was called Plaçage.
I hope this helps
Hello Cecily,. I have emailed about twenty of my DNA matches who are African and of European ancestry. Most of them have responded back but they like myself have no idea of how we are related accept for DNA. Don't give up! God will connect you with the relatives who want to get to know you! I'm believing for the same thing for myself.
I am very Sorry .Hugs I am white 100% , I will be your sister , cousin , auntie ! I wouldn't be ashamed ! Neither sides of my family were here much over 125 years but You are my family !! And God Bless You !!
Hi Cecily, families can always find reasons why "their side" is good and noble, and we don't talk to those others, or even acknowledge them. Race, religion, married, not married, you name it. You're intelligent and good looking, what the hell does anyone elses opinion of you matter. I'm dyslexic, but that doesn't last forever, you can get through it. Now, well, people seem to like me so in my opinion, nothing else matters. Step out proudly into the future.
I have fourth cousins that are probably black. Great x4 grandfather was black and got a white woman pregnant. Their child must have had a rough life because he fled where they were from and wound up way up north from allegedly Virginia or DC. I have no idea of the situation but it must have been difficult. Luckily, this ancestor was accepted with open arms in their pioneer community and was somewhat of a beloved local character. I wish I knew more about his parents and maybe DNA can link me back. I have serious doubts that his birth dates were accurate as well as his name. He could have been on the run from the law…who knows. It must have been a crazy time. Allegedly he fought for the union in the civil war, but he'd have been 14 years old.
Hello ! Don't give up that is your family for good or bad.remember that is the past nothing you can do about that . keep moving forward. Learn you family history. I know you can do it.You had the courage to start a YouTube channel. You can do anything now.
Listen to this, please /http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9g-VwtRd8ks
Dr. Oz discovered he had Jewish ancestry and he immediately declared, this (DNA testing) is a world-changing technology." And it is. We should not judge our dead relatives too severely since we have not walked in their shoes. We can learn from them.
Being white, it's often hard to look into history when you know how much oppression was (and is) due to your own people.
Even with poor farmers as my ancestors, I know they had to be a part of displacing First Nations people here in Canada somehow.
As proud as I am of my Celtic/Nordic/European roots and traditions, sometimes I think part of learning family history is finding out about the "a" holes that came before us.
Hopefully, we leave this world better than we found it. <3
First of all….its New Orleans, and "Norlans" has a very unique racial history.
Next: just FYI, there were very few Irish slaveholders in the South, in fact, because of their Catholic religion, they were social outsiders almost everywhere in the South, except for New Orleans, and possibly Savannah. If you are interested, look up the mixed Healy family. They produced several highly successful brothers, one of whom was a priest who became president of Georgetown University; the most famous of these brothers was "Hell Roaring" Mike Healy, a noted sea captain and explorer. Look up these stories and see what you find. Good luck,☺
so you gonna meet them or what? 🙂
Not all black people were slaves,new orleans has a history of mixed races,my husband found his great,great grand parents had decided to change their race on the census from one decade to the next ! From what I can gather they may have been from the carribean or the Virgin Islands because there are Hispanic names back in the geneology !
I encourage you to never stop your search. I can add a bunch of comments that may or may not be relevant to your family line… but what is true is that you are unique and excellent person!
Yeah I don't understand myself, why she is mad at he grandma? Is she ashamed she has Caucasian. Blood in her?
Dear Cecily, tears welled up in my eyes at the hurt the DNA search has brought you. I have listened to a number of people's stories that raised questions about the behavior and misbehavior of their great (and great-great) grandparents. These people are no longer here to share or hide their deeply intimate experiences that led to beloved children. Lives can be terribly complicated by choice even without taking into account the vicious possibilities caused by women being attacked by men they did not love. I have not done a DNA test yet, but I have some suspicions that some of the women in my family tree were not well treated and some of the men might have done reprehensible things. DNA can lead us to correct or wildly incorrect assumptions about the nature of relationships generations ago. Without documents such as diaries we have scant hope to know much truth. In Europe, war was often an excuse for raping conquered women. In the Balkan wars of just two decades ago this was widespread.
Your white relatives may be racist in not wanting to know their second cousins twice removed. They also may be struggling with a horrid guilt over things which are not their fault and just cannot confront those possibilities. As a teacher, I have always been leery of students being "proud" of their ancestors because digging deeper might make those ancestors into more complex human beings who, like most of us, also had warts. "We are not them." has been my motto. We can deeply admire the documented accomplishments and fortitude of people in the past, but we might find those same people "embarrassing" were we to identify with them. They were individuals who lived their lives with whatever goodness or failings they had. We are not them, but we can see character traits to admire in them and to emulate in our own lives. We can also see moral pitfalls to avoid. The only people we have to be proud of are ourselves. Pride is reflexive. Admiration is what we can give to others past and present.
Rather than be hurt by the uncertainty and even negativity of those distant cousins, recognize that they have fallen into a trap of identifying with ancestors instead of allowing them to bear the burden and glow in the glory of their own behaviors. We have a huge responsibility to love ourselves and to reach out with kindness to our contemporaries with whom we are making this world a little better in this generation. I feel certain that in your daily life there are many people who feel uplifted by knowing you. THAT is what is real and truly important.
As an aside, before DNA there were some brothers and sisters in Germany who claimed to be half-siblings of the children of Charles and Anne Lindbergh. The vociferous rejection of the American children was exceedingly hurtful to the German children who were indeed telling the truth. Charles Lindbergh had a second, secret family and had lived a lie to his own children, not to mention his wife. Imagine the distress of children whose conception of their father as a shining national hero had no space for him also being a deeply flawed human being. We only are responsible for ourselves. I hope you find many people in your life, maybe even some of those complicated distant, distant relatives with whom you can make this world a more loving place.
Don't feel bad that there is a chance you are descendant from a slaveowner.
If you think about it, Barrack Obama is almost from 100% slavemaster stock. His Muslim Kenyan grandfather owned slaves back in Kenya, and his Muslim father enslaved his mother via his lies (Obama's Kenyan half-sister was born only a couple months later than Barrack, though his mother never realized that she was the third wheel in a polygamous marriage). And Barracks mothers family harkened from a bunch of southern slaveowners from way back.
If she was in New Orleans Creole and Whites had a lot of interaction and this was not considered unusual… Why be mad? In many port cities and frontier towns human beings had interactions including marriage between races and there was prostitution. However these things occurred….. purity of one's racial makeup does not validate them… the makeup of their character does.
Thanks for the frank talk. We need it. We as a human race need the discussion. Because it is only through discussion that we can understand… and accept.
Never give up
So. There we are. In media white people are so "exciting to know they have African ancestors" but in reality most of them don't want to meet their African American cousins.
I get the impression that you feel bad that you are part white. I'm sorry that you feel bad about that. Just don't judge the sons and daughters for the "sins" of the mothers and fathers or grandmothers and grandfathers. We are all individuals and deserved to be seen as such. We all make our own decisions with the best information that we have at the time based on our experiences, feelings, and current wisdom. I would not try to second guess your grandmother and her decisions. Just accept people now for who they are and not for what their ancestors did or may have done. At the end of your video I got the impression that you probably were not going to build a relationship with them. This makes me sad because, from what you said, they seem like nice and good hearted people. It seems like you may be denying yourself of a beautiful experience in getting to know these people possibly because what you believe your grandmother and possibly all black people went through almost two centuries ago. Every culture has done something grievously wrong to another country. There must be a time when we look to the future instead of the past.
I stop looking for a while when I found my great great grandpa who was free. owned property, was born in Virginia and was named Peter Jefferson. That was the name of Thomas Jefferson's dad. That freaked me out for a while now I am starting back.
That day is fast approaching where everybody going to be searching for some black blood in their DNA makeup. Can't you see a "change coming?" He who is last shall be first, and he who is fist shall be last. For the so-called Christians, that's a future prophecy found in the Bible, Matthew 19: vs 30 and Matthew 20: vs. 16.
Sue em! Get the money for their illiminate baby's. Sue the whole family for millions, you got DNA proof.
I wonder if her great grandmother was white.
I understand. However , I hope that you can keep an open mind. You really do not know those individuals story. You did not walk in there shoes. And yes, this is real life. Their is good, bad and ugly for every family. Thiere is no exception. Detach your emotions from this amazing story and find out the rest of the story with out your perceive narrative.
Hey, I don't understand why White people are called Caucasians when Caucasians are people that originate from Western Asia (The Caucasoid) The first person that I remember using that term was Lisa Bonet. She made it sound as though it was more politically correct than White but European is more fitting to me. I just wanted to say that I'm glad that you had such a good response that you decided to reach out to your family and please don't let skin color make you feel less a part of them. Whether your ancestor was in love or assaulted you'll probably never know unless you find the right person that can trace their family back. I'm willing to bet that your ancestor was probably romantically involved the was two normal consenting adults do. I watch the PBS special with Dr. Gates and though some stories are horrible there are other stories about life pre civil rights that are absolutely heart tugging. Family is great and their color is just a form of beauty just like yours.
Cecily or Carrie? I know what you mean about sometimes wanting to give up. I have found all kinds of information about cousins that is depressing, but I have also met some wonderful cousins of all races that I am so greatful to have met and know. You can't control what people do or did, you can only control your reaction to it. I wish everyone would put pictures up so everyone could see how inter-entwined all Americans are.
We are what we are The pains of the past are really unknowable, but I refuse to accept that all of that hooking up was a lot different that what goes on today. I don't judge a person for marrying someone of a different shade of brown. We are all just shades of brown, some very light brown, some very dark brown, a lot in between. It is an interesting point that men have irresponsibly sown their seed and not been aware of or concerned with the children from those unions. What does that say about us? Part of growing up is realizing that people often do things that seem good to them at the time without a thought for how it will affect others. Sometimes it causes divorce, and children are then raised in broken homes. It is almost never the intent of the wife or husband to hurt the children. But children of divorce are always injured. Not intentionally, but they are injured. I cannot judge those of my ancestors who may have stepped over the line, as they were not intending to hurt me. Maybe they acted foolishly, but I forgive them. After all I am here aren't I? Maybe if they had acted with more restraint I wouldn't be around. But I am. So who am I to judge them?
why would you be mad at her?
I'm confused on the percentage.
Cecily get woke with your dramatic ass… it's cool to find out where you're from but even if when it's all said and done how would knowing change you as a person?you know who you are…love who YOU ARE! .
and people need to stop giving these companies your dna… when these test came out it was primarily used by government and law enforcement… we all thought that test a great thing fuck we could prosecute rapist, child molester, killers that killed someone over some dumb shit that test could even exclude a person as suspect…THAT TEST EVEN PROVES IF SOMEONE IS THE BABY DADDY then celebrities jumped on the bandwagon AND THEN THEY MADE THAT SHIT AFFORDABLE FOR "SOCIETY" TO LEARN ABOUT THEMSELVES LIKE THE RICH AND FAMOUS DID!
but… you really think three people give a fuck what your genetic makeup is? people in prison HAVE to provide a dna sample, when i went to county, i was sitting in the intake room or whatever… this guy was brought in very intoxicated to the point he couldn't do the breathalyzer properly…
at that point the intake co's threw him on the ground beat his ass then strapped him to a restraint chair. medical came, had all their vitals and needles THAT GUY REPEATEDLY TOLD THEM I DO NOT GIVE ANYONE PERMISSION TO TAKE MY BLOOD, they forcefully took it… which at the time i was in college for criminology so how i seen it was the officers illegally obtained that man's dna… your dba is the most personal thing we have, our dna is us…
i don't think i know the government is up to no good… they're doing so many different things with that dna you send in… that's a lot of spit considering the forensic labs can get dna from a tiny drop of blood, do you know how many black people just disappear? i hope everyone is also paying attention to healthy black people unexpectedly die? personally I've never ever seen family members request to see their loved one's organs just to make sure no1 stole his shit and sold it to the the highest bidder… when they were kidnapping people from Africa they only wanted the strongest, the ones that would reproduce and they'd have a new generation of the best of best… think of it exactly how dogs are bred… they want the perfect litter if pupoies the better the puppies the more money they sell for…
now even tho i don't think any black person in America is 100% black anymore but they still get those traits of what they considered valuable from back in the day… when some sick over privileged muthafukr needs a new heart or long THEY RUN RIGHT TO THE FUCKN DNA DATABASE TO SEE WHO'S THE BEST OPTION TO SAVE RICH PERSONS LIFE
they want everyone in the dna database so they made it easy for society to willingly send them your dna AND PEOPLE ARE PAYING TO GET ADDED TO A LIST AND YOU GUYS DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THEY DO WITH ALL THAT SPIT AFTER THEY GET THE FEW DROPS THEY NEED… THINK ABOUT IT… DON'T GET ME STARTED ON MELANIN, FROM WHAT I'VE BEEN TOLD MELANIN IS SOMETHING ONLY HUMANS PRODUCE THAT SHIT, i haven't really looked into if melanin occurs in other biological material or not but WHY ARE WHITE PEOPLE TAKING MELANIN PILLS OR SHOTS HOWEVER THE FUCK THEY'RE USING IT
the bottles will say 100% natural organic…
where are they getting this 100% natural organic melanin from?
all you have to know is YOU ARE YOURSELF BABYGIRL…
*people need to fall back on handing out their dna like the shit isn't precious…
Yes it has become disappointing already for me. I'm 43% European and I have a 2nd cousin match that is white. Now she hasn't logged in to respond but some I've emailed I see they've logged in and not responded. It's disheartening because it's limiting me in figuring out my father's side. I'm fairly sure his father was white and my dad was born in 1910. His mother was also biracial. So my research is hinged on people who either have an issue with having a black relative or as someone mentioned shame about the possible circumstance.
+CECILY JAMELIA TV- TRY NOT TO FEEL BAD, LET DOWN OR EVEN DEJECTED. YOU ARE DEALING WITH "TRUTH" AND IF OTHERS CAN'T DEAL WITH TRUTH, THEN, THEY HAVE SOME DEEP-SEATED ISSUES IN TERMS OF CHARACTER. HEY, CECILY, KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'RE DOING. SATISFY YOURSELF AND DO WHAT YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO DO. DON'T GET DISCOURAGED AND, MAYBE, CONSIDER NOT BEING ANGRY AT YOUR GRANDMOM. WE DON'T KNOW HER CIRCUMSTANCES DURING HER TIME. HEY, GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!!!
same here Im Native American and white
Im going through something similar. I hope you didn't give up. I'd love to hear some update.
beautiful woman